What does this guy want from me?

It's obvious that you and your mate are looking for two different things in a relationship. He likes to have fun and go do what he wants to do. You are wondering what to do to get him to give you the attention you deserve. Well, find someone who is willing to give you what you desire. Don't try to piss him off before you move on... You are not that kind of person and that will not benefit you in the long run. The energy you are spending on trying to figure out what to do about this situation could be used to develop a loving and fantastic relationship with someone else. Move on and you'll be happier for it.