Need Christian married couple advice!!!!?

My husband and I have been married for a year now. I was pregnant when we got married so we now have a 7 month old son. My husband has a very demanding job and is gone MOST of the time. We have no family where we live so we hardly ever get alone time together without our son. Life is extremely stressful right now and we argue most of the time. We say things that hurt one another but always apologize afterward but that doesn't take away the damage done. He now says things to me that he never said before ... things i'd rather not mention, horribly disrespectful mean things. I know he doesn't mean the things he says and is speaking out of emotion but it still hurts!! I've tried talking to him about possibly getting a different job so that we can have more family time together but that isn't even an option right now. We are both terribly miserable with life and marriage but still are crazy in love! I pray about it all the time and keep telling myself it will get better but i'm almost out of hope and feel depressed!!! What should we do??? My husband is actually a counselor and i don't feel that we need marriage counseling but all the bickering and name calling and throwing divorce up in the air has to STOP!! Neither one of us even believe in divorce! HELP! I'm so miserable!!!